Yoga Talk Podcast 8: Yoga and Relationships
Kat and Michael discuss mindful dating, making friends in asana class, and the ever-important practice of “not being a jerk to people” (ourselves included).
- How can yoga help us to navigate our relationships more skillfully? (Can it?)
- Are there ways that yoga (or at least yoga culture) creates relationship barriers/challenges?
- The practice of “not being a jerk to people” (including ourselves) can be way more challenging than a one-handed eka pada galavasana.
Romantic relationships and dating
- Lots of yoga/relationship resources have been geared mostly toward married, heterosexual, monogamous couples (often with children, and often with presumptions about income and availability of resources). This can be frustrating for those who don’t necessarily fit into those boxes. Thanks to the internet we are hearing more diverse voices, but we still have a long way to go.
- Many of us today do not fall under the traditional definition of a householder, but we’re not necessarily interested in a life of celibacy and/or singleness either (though some people are, and that's totally awesome too!) How can we "live our yoga" when it comes to dating and romantic relationships?
- Dating in accordance with our ethics: being honest, kind, and intentional.
- We love Caroline Beaton's thoughtful, practical article Practice for Romance: How Yoga Can Help Us Understand Dating.
Yoga and online dating
- The Science of Online Dating, by Rachel Nuwer
- Caitlin Roper at Wired magazine worked with OKCupid and Match.com using data analysis to put together tips for optimizing your online dating profile and found that mentioning "yoga" in your profile is advantageous to both men and women.
- Another recent study from researchers at Queen Mary University of London published in the journal Evidence Based Medicine also mentions yoga (and its results made Kat roll her eyes—a lot).
- Yoga dating sites
- Mamaste's interview with OmSingles founder Oliver Andreas at Rebelle Society
- The "cool girl" trope: She has a yoga incarnation too
- Yoga class and teacher training as a place to meet/make friends
- Importance of community
- Why the "yoga bubble" can be problematic
- Why making friends can be hard when you’re the teacher/establishing boundaries without isolating yourself
- Great article from J. Brown’s Yoga Teacher As Friend
Relationship with community outside of yoga
- In what ways can we as teachers/studio owners, etc. serve our communities?
- Acknowledgment of privilege and lack of diversity
- Getting out of our yoga bubbles
Marriage and LTRs
- Loading the Dishwasher: A Metaphor for Marriage, by Karen Maezen Miller
- Is it better or worse to be in a relationship with a fellow yogi?
- Finding Space for Yoga in Motherhood, by Nancy Linnon
- The Yoga of Motherhood, by Kate Hanely
- Weaving Yoga into Family Life, by Mira Binzen
- Being a "yoga-vangelist" and inadvertently pushing it on those we love
- Who Is This Yoga Lady and What Has She Done with My Mom? by Sheri Bestor
Family of origin/parents/siblings
- That famous Ram Das quote
Relationship with self
- Svadhyaya (the study OF yourself, not study BY yourself)
Listener mail! Our favorite yoga resources
Send your comments, questions, and future show ideas to:YogaTalk@yogainternational.com
Our intro is "Namaste Nation" by The Householders. Listen to the whole thing on their Soundcloud page
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